Saturday, May 15, 2010

Stay-at-home Mom vs Career Woman

My son is now 16 mnth old and i am thinking what to do? Put him into childcare and find a job for myself or just stay at home for longer?
When i got pregnant i quit my job because i was sick all the time and the environment where i was working wasn't good for my pregnancy. So then i said that once i will give birth i will stay at home with my baby for 6 months, then will start looking for jobs. It's very expensive to have a baby, not that i am complaining. I thought it will be easier for my hubby as well. But when i check around for infant care centres i got a shock to know how much they charge.
My initial thought was to get a half day job, and i would have time for my son, for the house, and for myself, but viewing all those charges from child care centres, it got me thinking. For a half day job i would be paid very less, compared to a full-time job, and so i would not afford to put my son into childcare.
The time passed and here we are with my son 16months old and no job.
Shoul i feel somehow guilty for not having a job or not trying hard enough? My hubby is woking so hard and i wish i could help sometimes.
He always tells me that he likes me being home cause i can take care of our son for longer. We heard so many stories from childcare centres whereby children have been punished way too harsh. At one point i will have to let go of him and send him to kindergarten, but first just want to make sure i am ready and he is ready as well. He needs to communicate with me and teachers and talk to me when something bad happen to him.
I know and i have seen a lot of stay-at-home moms, and they're ok with the fact that their husbands are working and they look after their children. So maybe so should I.
For now i will spend as much time with my son as i can, later on will see what will happen.
Love and hugs